Why I’m Feisty
A little bit about Feisty over 40…
I had a plan. I always had a plan: be kind to people, do well in school, follow the rules, don’t do drugs, and keep your head on straight. I married a successful educated man, had two great kids, was a dutiful worker and friend, daughter and sister; the plan was right on target, and I couldn’t have been more unhappy. The catalyst for throwing the plan out the window was when my now very successful husband had an affair, but in a way he did me a favor (it took much therapy to be able to say that) because he gave me freedom. No one expected me to stay with a cheater, but in time the person that I feel the most sorry for is his new wife: she just wouldn’t understand why yet. As I age I have experienced the pain that I think one needs in order to write well, and I care less about the judgments of other people. Feisty over 40 won’t be overly crude, because that’s not my style, and I don’t have a set topic from week to week, so it might seem somewhat self-indulgent. If that’s not for you, then find another blog to read. I will tell you what’s on my mind in the context of what it’s like to be divorced and raising two daughters alone; how scary, no that’s not strong enough, how absolutely terrifying it is to date after twenty-five years of not dating; how managing diet, health, and fitness is increasingly difficult; and how getting what you want takes constant effort.
Along the way you might learn some things and perhaps you’ll be somewhat amused, you might even laugh on occasion because I’m told that I’m funny. Often it’s when that was not my intention. We will talk cooking, kids’ parties, dating, social media, and really what we want to be when we grow up. I hope that you will enjoy exploring with me.